Care-giving not only involves the tasks of caring for one’s loved one, but there is also much emotional turmoil which can accompany the family care-giving process. I found this especially true in the later months of my husband’s illness. Transfers to the bathroom, bed, and car were becoming increasingly difficult; and I was finding myself fearfully anticipating each next transfer.
God wants us to do everything in dependence on Him.
Care-giving began to teach me that self-sufficiency would not work.
Apart from God we can do nothing of eternal value. God’s deepest
desire for you, dear Christian caregiver, is that you depend on Him
in every situation. There is no other way to travel through the
challenges and sometimes grief of care-giving. Rely on the Lord
constantly. Let Him fill you moment by moment with His strength. You
do not have enough strength on your own, dear caregiver, but He will
give you enough strength for the day.
As I think back on my days as
caregiver for my husband, I remember those days as being very
difficult days. My husband’s disease was a terrible disease which
made him completely dependent on others especially near the
end of his life. Through it all as I look back, however, I can
see how God provided step by step. I clung tightly to God during
those days. Perhaps my emotional stress would have been lighter,
however, if I would not have tried to anticipate the future. I needed
to rely moment by moment on God alone.
The Lord wants to give you His peace in the midst of
the chaos of care-giving, dear Christian caregiver. Take time
each morning to sit quietly in His presence through prayer and
Bible reading. Then walk through the day constantly reminding
yourself of His presence. The peace which will come from
remembering His presence in your life is a rare and beautiful
treasure. That peace will help you stand up under the
struggles of the day. Wear God’s peace throughout the day.
He will refresh you when you are weary, dear
caregiver. He will give you what you need when you feel as if you
cannot persevere for even one more moment in your
care-giving duties. Also do not become discouraged when your emotions
so overwhelm you that you do not feel that peace, dear Christian
caregiver. God understands our weakness. On those days just turn back
once again to the Lord.
(This blog post on peace can be found as
a meditation in my book: Dear Caregiver (subtitled Reflections for
Family Caregivers.) My book
can be ordered at Xulon, my publisher and also at Amazon and Barnes
and Noble online. The amazon link is here:
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