(This post is another chapter from my book, Dear Caregiver Reflections for Family Caregivers.)
Dear Caregiver, the heartaches and difficulties of family care-giving can often be very over-whelming. This time in your life may very well be the most difficult trial that you have faced. It is so very physically, emotionally and spiritually draining to see one's love one deteriorate in his or her health and to know that one is very limited in what one can do to help that loved one.
Care-giving often teaches in a very vivid way that self-dependence does not work. It certainly made that truth very clear to me when I was a caregiver. Dear caregiver, God wants you to lean on Him. He want you to trust in Him and acknowledge Him. God wants you to have a heart that rests in His promises. He wants you to believe with absolute certainty that He will teach you and guide you every step of the way down your care-giving path.
Surrender to God's plan for your life right now, dear caregiver, even though it is a very difficult path and a path which you would never have chosen for yourself. Daily lean on and depend on God by relying on His promises in His Holy Word and by prayer. He is the answer and daily provides for you and your loved one's needs.
In fact, dear Christian caregiver, God is using the pressures and challenges of care-giving to produce in you a beautiful Christ-likeness. He is molding you into a precious vessel more suitable for His glory and use. In the process of doing this He is guiding you step by step, increasing your trust in Him, giving you His strength, and providing for you and your loved one in a way that is beyond what you think possible or are able to imagine (Ephesians 3:20). We do not always understand or even agree with God's ways, but we can trust them. We can also trust His love. He loved us enough to send His own Son for us. Can we not also trust Him to provide for us even in life's most challenging situations?
Dear caregiver, family care-giving is often a difficult road to travel. Yet God is leading you and is with you all the way. Lean on Him, dear caregiver.