One of the most discouraging aspects of caregiving for family members with a terminal illness is witnessing the continual deterioration of their bodies. When my husband was first diagnosed with his neurological disease (multiple systems atrophy type c) in 2006 he was still able to work for awhile. After he quit working he gradually moved from a cane to a walker to a wheelchair, and then finally I had to use a lift with him the last months of his life.
The last months and perhaps weeks of my husband’s life the progression in his disease seemed to take more rapid dives downward. One good thing at that time was that I was able to rent a sit to stand lift. Someone from the office of aging and disability told me about this possibility, and so I pursued this. So in late October of 2010, my son and I went to take a look at this sit to stand lift at the HomeCare Resources store in a local town. A few days later the lift was delivered.
It took me a couple weeks and a couple demonstrations to begin to feel comfortable using this product. After I had all my questions answered about the proper use of the product and I had practiced using it for awhile, I felt fairly comfortable using it. With the lift I could get my husband transported from one of his chairs to the toilet, to bed etc. right on target. It was awkward using this lift and it involved some heavy pushing. It was doable, however.
Those days were difficult, but when I look back I am amazed at God’s provision step by step. I am amazed that God provided this lift so that I could keep Wayne out of the nursing home. I am amazed that I learned to use this device by God’s grace. I am amazed that God provided my C N A lady who helped some evenings and my son to help me during those last months. My house at that time began to look like a nursing home with all the disability equipment standing around, but the Lord provided.
God never promises us a life free from trials. He does promise to be with us each step of the way, however. I have a picture in my kitchen which says, “The Lord Provides.” He surely does provide. Whatever heartaches and challenges you are undergoing, dear Christian caregiver, know that the Lord is indeed with you step by step. He will provide.