This blog was started to encourage family caregivers. I began this blog after caring for my first husband, Wayne, for four and a half years. After many happy years together with my first husband, the last few years were difficult. Wayne became more and more disabled due to a rare neurological disease called Multiple Systems Atrophy. He was totally dependent on me in the end and passed on January 2, 2011. Yet I loved him to the end.
One never forgets those whom we have loved. There is a sense in which one always grieves their loss. Yet through slow healing one can and must find new joy and purpose again in life. If you are a widow, this can happen by remaining single. A widow or widower often has time to pursue wonderful volunteer activities and services to others that she or he did not have time to do in their married life.
It also may mean remarriage and finding love again. Remarriage does not mean forgetting or not occasionally grieving one's first love. How could we do that even if we tried? Remarriage is just one way to move on to God's next chapter for us. In the same way as one loves more than one child in one's family, so it is possible to love and marry again.
Below is a link you might find helpful explaining that concept. I hope you find it a blessing as I did:
If you are a former caregiver who has lost the love of your life, take time to heal. Yet work toward healing and joy again. This may mean living as a single person the rest of your life. It also could mean remarriage. Second marriages have their own challenges, as does living as a single the rest of your life. Yet be open to God's leading and next chapter for you.