(This post is a chapter from my book, Dear Caregiver Reflections for Family Caregivers.)
The path of being a caregiver for a family member is sometimes so steep and so exhausting. If caregivers carry a load of fear and sometimes false guilt on their backs, the way is going to be even more difficult. If a loved one is terminally ill and deteriorating month by month before a caregiver's eyes, it is so easy to feel a sense of false guilt when a caregiver witnesses these things in his or her loved one's life. As a caregiver, I remember having these feelings. The truth of the matter is that it is totally irrational to fear or feel guilty about the uncontrollable.
It is important at such times to remember that God is the one who is in control of our lives and not us. The Lord God also wants us to remove the heavy emotional loads we put on ourselves. In Matthew 11:28-30 in the Bible the Lord invites us to come to Him when we feel weary and emotionally weighed down, and He promises to give us His rest. He invites us to yoke or tie our lives to Him, and He promises to lighten our load. He will then be carrying our load. This is the way to true freedom.
It is His unconditional love and presence that can free you, dear caregiver, from the fears and other negative emotions. Spend time in His presence each day through prayer and Bible reading. Bask in the light of His promises and presence in this way. Your care-giving heartaches and problems will not magically go away, but the Lord will be beside you each step of the way.