I knew from the beginning that my husband's illness would finally take over his body. I just did not know how long he would still be with me. I often prayed prayers for strength to be the best wife and caregiver that I could possibly be. I often prayed for strength to just get through moment by moment. I grew in intimacy with my Lord during that time of caring for my husband. That was part of the God's purpose for this time of trial in my life.
So should and can we pray for healing in the lives of our loved ones? Yes, we most definitely can and should do so. We must remember, however, that the Lord knows what is best for us and our loved ones. Nancy Guthrie in her book, The One Year Book Of Hope, says it well. She suggests we pray this way, "God, would you please accomplish Your will? Would you give me a willing heart to embrace Your plan and Your purpose? Would You mold me into an instrument that You can use to accomplish what You have in mind?" Nancy goes on to say, "And then, perhaps, we could add a tiny P.S. that says, 'if that includes healing we will be grateful.'"
I would add that healing will come no matter what transpires with your loved one who is a child of God. If physical healing does not occur on this earth, your loved one will be completely healed and whole in Eternity. Trust God's perfect plan. Psalm 57:2 says, "I cry out to God most High, to God, who fulfills His purpose for me." Dear caregiver, God will fulfill His purpose for you as well.