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Sunday, April 26, 2015
The Wise Caregiver
is one of the most challenging endeavors an individual may have to
face in life. This is especially true, if one’s loved one for whom
one is caring is either terminal or enduring a long-term illness. In
such cases a grief process already begins to take place the day of
diagnosis. I know it did for me. As a caregiver if I had not had a
solid faith foundation, I would have folded under the emotional and
physical pressure of care-giving.
reminds me of the parable of the wise and foolish man in the Bible
(Matthew 7:24-29). The wise man built his house on the rock. When the
rains and winds came and the streams rose the wise man’s house
stood, because it was built on a solid foundation. The foolish man
built his house on sand. When the rains and winds came and the
streams rose the foolish man’s house fell flat.
parable is so applicable to care-giving with all its heartaches,
storms, and challenges. Wise caregivers will dig deeply into God’s
Word. They will hear, read, and obey God’s Word. They will rest in
God’s promise that He will always be with them and never forsake
them. They will believe the Lord their God when He tells them of His
love for them. They will look for and trust God’s guidance and
strength in facing the discouragement and sometimes agonizing
decisions of care-giving.
caregivers will often experience difficult emotions and even
spiritual storms, as they go through their care-giving experience.
They sometimes feel as if they will not be able to hold
up under the pressure of the whole care-giving experience for even
one more day. When that happens they once again look to God for
strength to face each moment of every day. Wise
caregivers have learned that they should not seek to be
self-reliant, but they must rely entirely on the Lord God.
They know that their lives are based on the sure promises and
the sure foundation of the Bible and of Lord God
caregiver, make sure you are not trying to persevere in the storms of
care-giving alone. Perseverance is a good virtue, but sometimes we
have to reach out to other people for help. We are not meant to live
this life in the power of our own perceived resources. Most
importantly, we have to make sure we are relying on the sure
foundation of God’s Word, the Bible, and on a saving faith in the
Lord God. The storms of care-giving are often extremely intense.
Hence, it is essential that we are standing on God’s sure
foundation instead of the unstable sands of our own feeble efforts.
post is also found as a chapter in my book: DEAR CAREGIVER
Reflections for Family Caregivers. Links to my book are found on
the right hand side of this page.
an another very personal note will you please pray for my
daughter-in-law's sister. I cannot give details here on social
media, but it is an urgent potentially life and death matter.)