(This post is again a chapter from my book, Dear Caregiver Reflections for Family Caregivers)
Care-giving and watching my husband decline in his health and then his death in January of 2011 has been one of my life’s most difficult tests. Knowing I could trust that God loved me and was in control in the midst of the confusion and grief of it all made and continues to make all the difference in the world.
God is sovereign and in control. Nothing happens to a Christian caregiver or his or her loved one that is not filtered through His love. This is true even in the heartbreaking events which often accompany care-giving and sometimes their death. This is a difficult truth to accept. When this truth is accepted, however, it a soft place to land when one is overwhelmed with life’s difficulties.
God is good. Circumstances may be bad, but God is good. God is the very definition and essence of goodness. He proved that by sending His son on the cross. He can help caregivers who are struggling to keep emotional and spiritual equilibrium in the midst of the heartaches of seeing their loved ones decline in their health. He can also slowly emotionally heal caregivers, when and if their loved ones are not healed on this earth.
Joy can coexist in the midst of the heartaches and grief that often accompany care-giving and possibly losing our loved ones. This is because joy is not based on circumstances which are favorable or perfect. Rather it is based on a relationship with the Lord. If the Lord takes your loved one to Himself sooner than you would like, dear caregiver, He will be with you each step of the way then also. There is deep hurt and grief in the loss of a love one. It involves a process that takes much time and deep crying out to the Lord and depending on Him. There is a scar that never goes completely away. Yet, the Lord's faithfulness will be with you all the way, and the joy of the Lord will return. Do not live in fear of the future, dear Christian caregiver. Never forget that the Lord loves you, and He is good. He is in control.
(This post as stated above is a chapter from my book. It is in fact the last chapter of my book. At this blog site I have often written new posts. I also sometimes have included chapters from my book, as I did today. If you are a family caregiver consider ordering my book. If you know a family caregiver consider ordering my book for them. Below is the link to ordering my book from Amazon. Even though it says only one in stock, it should work for you to order there. It will only take a day or two longer. My book is also available through Barnes and Noble and elsewhere on the internet. You can further get a book directly from me by contacting me at firstname.lastname@example.org and asking me for specifics.)