I would never have chosen to be a family caregiver. It was difficult to watch my husband, the love of my life, deteriorate in his body step by step. The challenges of taking care of him were overwhelming at times. I would also have not chosen other things that have come into my life, like becoming a widow and facing life's challenges without a mate.
Yet sometimes the things we would never choose for our lives, God allows and chooses for us. This is because challenging situations makes us to become more like Jesus, if we are His child (Romans 8:29). They develop our character and perseverance (Romans 5:3-4). We often only receive the things from the Lord that we need by experiencing the things we never would have chosen or wanted. We often receive what we need from the Lord by experiencing and facing challenges we thought we could never face. Also a new freedom often comes into our lives through the times in our lives when we have felt the most broken.
All of us face hardships and difficulties in our lives. Yet sometimes we think that other people's burdens are easier than our own. We think other people's "crosses" are easier to carry than our own. Yet the cross that God allows in each of our individual lives is always the right cross for us to carry. It is also the kindest and lightest cross for us.
Care-giving for my husband was a difficult cross for me to carry, as I watched my husband deteriorate before my eyes during those years that I cared for him. Yet care-giving was not God's plan B for my life. Neither was widowhood. It was always God's Plan A for my life, so I could become all God meant me be to be and so I could serve Him in the way He had chosen for me. The same is true for you, dear caregiver!
(I plan to be away from my computer for a few days, so the next post will be on or around October 23, Lord willing. Use this time to read some of my older posts.)