There are two mistakes family caregivers and really everyone makes in challenging times. One mistake is to think one can do it all alone. It is believing one has to always be in control of everything. Often we wait until we are desperate to seek help from others and from God. The truth is that we are in control of nothing. God is the only one who is in control. He is directing and leading our lives.
The other mistake we sometimes make is to think that a situation is impossible. I remember many seemingly impossible situations as a caregiver. The challenges and changes sometimes came often and suddenly. Sometimes I also face seemingly impossible situations as a widow as well. Yet in life's "impossible" situations, God is there. He we must remember is in control.
The stresses can be overwhelming and unpleasant. Even the people in the Bible like the psalmists and Paul, the apostle felt them. Yet stress in our lives serves two great purposes. They make us see that we are not in control, and they teach us dependence on the Lord. They make us see that worrying will not change our situation. We do not have to carry our burdens alone. Being yoked to the Lord is a much better route to follow. When we are weary and burdened He will give us His peace and rest (Matthew 11:28-30).
Stress and problem also makes us see God's working in our lives. If we with spiritual eyes look with expectation for God's blessings and help in our lives, we begin to see God working out the details and heartaches of our lives. They may not always be on our timetable or in the direction we wanted our lives to go, but God is so much wiser than we are.