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Sunday, September 27, 2015
The Losses of Care-giving
your loved one has suffered with a terminal disease or with a disease
which has caused a severe disability, your loved one has experienced
serious losses in his or her life. You as his or her
caregiver have also suffered serious losses. You have most likely
suffered the loss of a relationship as it once existed and the loss
of time doing fun things together with your loved one. Dear
Christian caregiver, those losses can really hurt. I think
the loss or change in a relationship that one once had with one’s
love one is the most difficult of all losses.
have also suffered a loss of dreams for the future. As a caregiver
you may have further lost the help of your ill loved one with duties
around the house. Finally because of the expenses of care-giving
you may have lost possessions and financial security.
September of 2009 I wrote about yet another loss.
This loss was the loss of my husband’s leadership in decision
making due to his illness. I wrote the following words:
do weary of being responsible for so many decisions. When we bought a
different vehicle this summer, I did all the talking and dealing.
When there are telephone calls to be made or problems to be solved it
is I who has to take charge. Soon we will have some major insurance
issues to consider. That will be mainly my responsibility. We may
have a chance to move from our apartment to a condo. There is a condo
in our price range available, but all the things to think about in
regards to such a possibility are a bit overwhelming.
love the good times my husband and I still have together, but I miss
the way things used to be. I miss the times when my husband took more
responsibility for these type things and decisions. I miss the
person my husband used to be.”
losses and the stresses of care-giving can be overwhelming at times.
Always remember that the Lord God is with you in the losses,
dear Christian caregiver. His plans for your future are also good. He
can turn the chaos and heartaches of care-giving into something
beautiful in your character and in your future. Rest in Him.