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Sunday, June 7, 2015
the storms of nature the storms of life can come in many forms.
Sometimes we know a storm of life is brewing on the horizon.
Sometimes it comes unexpectedly. Either way we usually cannot choose
our life’s circumstances. We do have a choice, however, in our
responses to life’s storms.
was not prepared for the “storm” of my husband’s diagnosis
of a devastating neurological disease in 2006 followed by
my own diagnosis of breast cancer in 2007. I am thankful
to report that today I am a survivor of breast cancer. The same
was not true for my husband, Wayne, however. For over four years I
saw his continual decline until his death in
January of 2011. In 2009 I wrote the following
like the weather always has its ups and downs. Some days feel stormy,
and on those days I feel I can’t do it anymore. On other days life
tends to take on a certain rhythm and pattern and is workable. Life
always tends to be a mixture of joys and sorrows. I am joyful in my
faith and in my relationship with my Lord. I am thankful that I know
He is always with me. It is difficult living with the reality of my
husband’s disease, however. I am happy that the struggles of life
are making me stronger in my character, in my faith, and as a person.
I struggle with the fact, however, that it sometimes has to be so
emotionally exhausting, and I wonder why life has to be so
of the things the storms of the heartache and pains of care-giving
taught me was that I could not rely on my own strength
and that I really was not in control of anything. I think
this is an especially difficult lesson for a caregiver to learn.
This is because caregivers are constantly “fighting” for the best
health and well-being of their loved ones. This need to try to
control and do it in our own strength has to be offered up to God on
the altar of surrender, however; if we are going to be strong in
the storms of life.
During my care-giving days the
Lord was also trying to teach me that concentrating on the pain and
heartaches of the storms of life often can blind us to the rainbow of
the Lord’s presence in our lives. We have to look for the wonders
and workings of God in our lives. We have to look for His presence.
Out of the heartache and brokenness He can make something beautiful
in His perfect timing.
Christian caregiver, the storms of care-giving and life in general
can be very brutal and even devastating. Know that the Lord has the
answers when you don’t. Know that He is with you each step of the
way. Know that He is in control, and He is very present in your life
and in the life of your loved one. Finally, know that He sees your
stormy days, and is loving you through the storms of care-giving.