"I feel so alone in this." Have you ever said or thoughts those words, dear caregiver? I know there were times when I felt all alone as a caregiver. Sometimes I still have those feelings in my post-caregiver days. Feelings are fickle and changeable, however. The truth is that the Lord is always with us.
We can make ourselves more aware of the Lord's presence, however, by taking daily time with Him in prayer and in His Word. God has so many promises in His Word assuring us of His presence. It is very helpful to remind ourselves of these promises when we become discouraged or feel all alone.
Another way we can make ourselves more aware of the Lord's presence is through thankfulness. I was reminded in my devotions recently that when we choose thankfulness, it in turn opens the door to an awareness of the Lord's presence in our lives. The devotional went on to say that thankfulness is built on the foundation of our trust in the Lord. If we are thankful for both the small and large blessings, it will soften the impact of the trials in our lives. God want us to give thanks in all circumstances even the difficult ones like the heartaches that family care-giving can sometimes produce (I Thessalonians 5:18).
I have suggested in the past the idea of writing down at least three things each day for which you are thankful. I found this to be immensely helpful to me as a family caregiver. It is so easy to get weighed down with the heartaches of seeing one's loved one deteriorate in health step by step. This in turn can cause one to lose the perspective of seeing God's grace and daily blessings. The exercise of daily writing down three things for which one is thankful can do much to bring one's focus back to the Lord and His presence.
I would think it would be even better to take it a step further. Would not it be both wise and a blessing to thank God for His blessings multiple times throughout the day? When feeling overwhelmed by the emotional and physical burdens which sometimes accompany care-giving, it may be difficult to do this. How about starting by looking right outside your window, dear caregiver? Thank the Lord for the sunshine or rain, the trees and grass, and the flowers and skies. Then look around your house. Thank Him for the things He has given you to help in the care of your loved one. There is no end to the blessings for which we can thank the Lord.
It is strange. Giving thanks the Lord even when we do not "feel" like it adds to our joy and makes us feel less alone. It reminds us of the Lord's presence which never leaves us. See God's blessings, dear caregiver. Cherish these blessings, and thank Him for them.